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As we get older we tend to take for granted certain privileges that we had when we were younger.   Such as the ability to eat chicken nuggets and nap in the middle of the day... I wish I could have a nap time every day!   Another thing we tend to lose touch with as we get older is the ability to play.   We so easily get weighed down with responsibilities.  We have to study, work, pay bills, we're trying to keep up with social engagements, stay healthy and possibly get married and start a family and then all of the NEW responsibilities with that.  

I personally think that one of the greatest gifts God gives us to keep us feeling young and fun is to give us children.   I've always been a very playful person but since having children it's been so fun to tap back into my imagination and go on adventures with them.  We get to go slay dragons, and fly to the moon at bed time in our stories.  I color with my daughter and have started playing pokemon with my son.  I'm not going to lie, sometimes I'm so preoccupied with what I have going on with work or catching up on my own stuff that when the kids ask me to play with them I don't always feel like it.   Sometimes, I have to tell them to give me a few minutes to finish up what I'm doing and then I go join them.  But, it's so important to make sure you give your children uninterrupted, valuable time.   Not gifts, not the latest fashion or latest video game- just time.   Time is irreplaceable and these memories and the feeling of safety, comfort and fun is so important for the development of these children.  To read an article regarding the emotional and mental development of children and the role and value of one on one time Click Here.

Even as your children get older not only are you trying to juggle your own schedule but their schedule and MAN it can get overwhelming!   Between work, school, school events, school meetings, football, cheer or whatever activities they have, playdates etc the calendar gets crazy. It's so important to make sure you take time and teach children to balance their time.  To know as busy as they are it's important for them to recenter and spend time relaxing and rejuvenating to prepare for their best performance in the busy times.   I personally believe another obligation of ours as parents is to preserve our children innocence and playfulness as much as we can!  These babies are growing up TOO fast these days!   The things my children are learning and coming back talking to me about after school is stuff I didn't even know about  until I was MUCH older.   One simple thing I've added to our morning routine is tag.  


I wrote a blog a little while ago about our morning routine and how I try to make sure to start the kids days in the most positive way and send them off to school feeling balanced and prepared.   Ive since added playing tag!  Every morning while we go outside and wait for the bus we play tag in the driveway.  Obviously this might not work for everyone if you're at work or if you're having to wait at busy bus stops with your kids. If that doesn't work for you I urge you to find another time or way to play with your kids.  But, I  value my time to be able to go outside and play with the kids.  We run around, it keeps them warm and we play tag right up until they get on the bus- it usually makes the bus driver laugh too.

I guess to summarize this blog I just want to urge you to not get so overwhelmed with the schedule and responsibilities that you forget to play.  Enjoy!  Have fun!  Whether you have kids or not, you deserve to unwind and just enjoy life and the simple pleasures.  

Stay blessed!  

 -Misty

School Year

Hello all, and happy fall! 

      As you can see, I haven't blogged in a while.   I ended up working this summer much more than intended- which is a blessing.  However, I tried to really make sure I spend most of the summer focused on my family.   Children only have so many summers we get to enjoy with them.   My kids are only 6 and 7 years old and already wanting to go places with friends and go on their own "independent" adventures.   Yes- I put it in quotation marks because I try to give them the feeling of independence but momma is still watching everything.   Haha.

     Anyways, I saw something a while back that said: Your day is determined by how you spend your first hour when you're awake.   It got me thinking- IT REALLY DOES!   If I wake up and just rush and feel frazzled then my kids are going to school feeling rushed and frustrated.   Usually the first hour I spend packing backpacks, making a healthy and hearty breakfast, making them a nice lunch to bring to school and a good satisfying but healthy  (usually) snack.   After I get them on the bus then I'll usually do my devotions and start MY day.   But after many overwhelming mornings I decided to change my vibe- for the sake of the kids.  I don't want them going to school and feeling frustrated and stressed out because they can tell I'm overwhelmed.

 
When I decided it was time to change my vibes this is what I did.
          1: I set my alarm for a half hour earlier.     I am NOT a morning person.   I'm not a grouch or anything in the morning.  It just takes me a minute to get my brain and body on the same page that it's time to get up and start the day.   Setting the alarm for a half hour earlier (even when I snooze it) gives my body a chance to say "Hey, this sucks... but it's going to happen.  Get ready!"  As I've done it, it's been easier for me to get up and do my devotions, pray, check my emails and then get up and get the kids up.

           2: I snuggle the kids awake.   Unfortunately for the kids momma doesn't have a snooze button. So, I try to wake them up with lots of hugs and kisses.  I've explained to them how my dad use to wake me up and how much it annoyed me.   He would mimic the sound of a rooster crowing and it use to drive me nuts but now it's one of those cute memories.   So, when I do it to them they start giggling because they know I'm doing something that use to drive me nuts because of how much I love and miss my dad.   And they love that they have something from "Bop Bop" in their every day life.

          3:  Breakfast: I try really hard to make them a nice breakfast in the morning.  Don't get me wrong- not all days are full of energy and sunshiny demeanor.  Sometimes my kids will have a pop tart or some cereal in the morning.  But I try to make sure my kids have some pancakes, or eggs and toast.  Something hearty that will keep them full of energy and not feeling hungry until lunch time at school.   I really personally feel that it makes the kids feel good that they know they're worth the time and energy in the morning that I take the time to cook for them.

          4:  Love Notes:   I know the mornings are very rushed.  But something I've always done is write love notes to my kids for them to see while they're at school.   Even if it's a simple "I love you."  I buy them those paper bags for their snacks and I write a little note to them to tell the I'm proud of them, or good luck, or to be good influencers.  These kids at school have long days!   They're learning, working hard, they're timed and scheduled while trying to cram all this information in their brain and then having to learn to deal with other kids and their behaviors- which often times aren't very nice.   They're maturing and learning how to navigate themselves in all sorts of situations.   This is good- it's important lessons they need in life.   But I always, ALWAYS want them to know that whether it's a good day or a bad day at school that they are loved, I'm praying for them and that they will come home to a peaceful environment.  Something else I started doing with the snack bag notes is just taking an extra minute to do a little doodle.  Usually for my daughter it's a unicorn, horse, rainbow or butterfly.   For my son I usually draw a superhero symbol, minecraft characters or a football.   They've started to come to me in the morning and looking at the bags saying "What are you drawing me today?!"  It excites them that I take a little extra time to do that little thing for them- even though I'm not that skilled of an artist.  Ha!

        5: Worship: To me this is one of the most important things in our morning routine.   Every morning before I get the kids up I put my phone in the kitchen and tell Siri to shuffle Chris Tomlin.  I know not everyone believes in Jesus and that this isn't an important staple in everyones life, but it is in ours.   With the kids sports schedules there are seasons that we're not always able to make it to church.  It bums us out- but as much as we LOVE church we try our best to keep teaching the kids biblical principles and keep their relationship with God flourishing and we know that God is with us and loves us- even on the football field. ;)  I love to set my daily vibes up with singing some worshiping God and singing about how wonderful His blessings are.   It's actually something I was doing for myself but I recently discovered how it's effecting my kids.   My daughter came home and I had worship music playing while I was making dinner and "I will Follow" by Chris Tomlin came on- one of my personal favorites!  Leila told me "Mommy!  I had this song stuck in my head all day and I was singing it while I was doing my work at school today!"  I almost cried.   I was so proud and in awe at how my personal relationship with God is influencing their relationship with God.  For my daughter to go to school singing "Where you go I'll go, where you stay I'll stay, when you move I'll move, I will follow you.  Who you love I'll love, how you serve I'll serve in this life I choose I will follow YOU."  I LOVE that the thoughts in her head (and apparently singing under her breath) while she's at school is to trust and serve God while loving other people.

       6: Prayers:  Every morning before we leave the house I always pray with the kids.   We thank God for a good nights sleep, our breakfast, for daddy getting to work safely and I pray for God to protect my kids and for them to be examples of God's grace, love and kindness to everyone at school. Students and staff alike.   I think it's important to show the kids that you don't just pray to ask for stuff- you don't just pray for needs.   You pray to thank God for his blessings and pray for the strength for them to be the absolute best that they can be.   Again, I know not everyone believes in God, but for your kids sake I hope you can find to talk to them about what's going on and how they should handle situations and compose themselves.

       7: Send off:  After all the cooking, packing and rushing around its time for them to leave.   For many this is a joyous occasion, for me however I dread it.   I love having them home!   Every morning while we're waiting for the bus we always FaceTime Chris so the kids can say good morning and he can tell them to have a good day.  I always try to send them off with words of encouragement. I tell them I'm proud of them and to be great.   Isn't that all any of us want for our kids?  Be great.  Great at studying, great behavior, great attitude, great joy.  Be great and have a great day!

I've been doing most of these things for a couple years now- they're necessary for getting the kids to school.  The two biggest changes I've made which has changed the entire attitude for the day is waking up earlier to get myself woken up and putting on worship music.   Since adding those two things I've been much more at peace, laughing more with the kids in the morning and we actually ENJOY the morning!   My kids have started waking up earlier on their own (probably to avoid the crowing rooster sound) and get themselves dressed before I even come out of my room in the morning.  This morning I came out of my room to the smell of coffee-  They got up of their own accord, were already dressed and made me coffee!   I am so blessed!

I hope this blog has been a delightful read- anyone with kids in school know that mornings can be quite the experience.   Just know- you're not alone.   They're CRAZY!  They will continue to be crazy- and you won't be able to start every day as you would like- a LOT of parenting is just learning how to roll with the punches.  But, maybe some of these tips can help to send the kids off feeling content and ready to conquer the day with greatness.

                                                                      Stay Blessed!
                                                                           -Misty

JoJo's Biscuits

As my children are getting older they're enjoying more things that are hands on.  We love doing stuff

together where they can really dig in.  We do a lot of hikes, gardening, reading, games and as much as we can without technology.   I'm not a complete stickler, I let them watch TV and play on their iPads. I try to limit it, but usually I don't have to try too hard because we're always so active and busy that when they do have time to chill out on their devices I don't mind much.   However, I have seen that a lot of parents are so exhausted from living life that they rely a little too much on technology to entertain and really kind of babysit their kids- Trust me, I've had my moments too!   I've sadly seen a lot of children in my kid's school that they don't like to be outside and they are growing up lacking a lot of life skills because they aren't learning much outside of school.

According to the American Psychological Association "Martha Erickson, PhD, always believed that her frequent nature outings with her children, and her encouragement of their independent play and exploration outdoors, helped them mature into well-rounded adults. These days, she's getting confirmation of that fact.

"As many young people were spending increasing amounts of time watching television or playing video games, my kids were much more likely to head off on their bikes, canoe down the creek that flows through our city or rally some friends to create an outdoor adventure," she says. "Now, as young adults, they are fit, creative, adventurous and striving to protect the environment."

Increasing evidence demonstrates the many benefits of nature on children's psychological and physical well-being, including reduced stress, greater physical health, more creativity and improved concentration.

"The basic finding seems to be yes, nature does seem to be really good for kids," says Frances Kuo, PhD, founder of the Landscape and Human Health Laboratory at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign.

Beyond the health and cognitive benefits children may gain from free and unstructured play outdoors, nature also provides them with a sense of wonder and a deeper understanding of our responsibility to take care of the Earth, says Richard Louv, author of "Last Child in the Woods: Saving Our Children from Nature Deficit-Disorder" (Algonquin Books, 2005). Yet increasingly, nature is the last place you'll find children, research shows."  To read the rest of the article click HERE.

Unfortunately getting outside isn't always possible.  People live in cities, there's rain and weather to contend with.  Living in Massachusetts I know that it's winter half the year and most of the other days are raining or too hot to be outside, so it's always good to have activities to be able to fall back on inside the house.   One of my personal favorite things to do with my kids is to bake!  They love throwing on their aprons and helping me make dinner or baking some banana break or cookies.   I love it because it keeps their minds going.  They're not sitting in a classroom but their reading is far advanced because I have them help me read recipes, they get to practice their mathematical skills as I've taught them about measuring and how to double ingredients or cut them in half depending on how many people we're cooking for.  It's been a wonderful time to exercise their minds without noticing it because they're just getting to spend quality time with me and getting their hands (and clothes, and kitchen and.... everything) dirty.  But, I don't mind a bit of a mess- they're well worth the skills they're learning and the memories we're making.   

One recipe I've been looking for is a perfect biscuit recipe.   I'm originally from Texas and biscuits are just part of life down here- sadly not as much in Massachusetts.  I tried googling a few recipes and they didn't taste bad but they just weren't right.   One day I was watching Fixer Upper and I saw the episode where Joanna was baking biscuits and getting everything ready for opening Magnolia Table. They looked DIVINE!  We are such huge fans of Chip and Joanna, I think I've seen every episode of Fixer Upper, so naturally when Joanna came out with a cook book I NEEDED it, my husband got it for me for mothers day and I just prayed the biscuit recipe would be in there.  It was!  The first one!! I immediately ran to the store and picked up the last couple ingredients I needed and got started on them right away! The  children naturally threw on their aprons and dug right in.   We had a blast and they were so filled with love as we baked them together I knew they were going to be good.   

We had gone to the mall earlier that day and I picked up some Strawberry Peach Jam from Stonewall Kitchen and I knew it would be the perfect thing to compliment biscuits.   I added a little butter and a little jam and we all took a bite at the same time.  HEAVEN!!!  Literally the most delicious, tasty, amazing not only biscuits but food I've ever had in my life!  The kids were thrilled, my mom was thrilled, and my husband doesn't like jam or gravy (freak) but he enjoyed the biscuits just plain.   So if you're looking for the PERFECT biscuit recipe- you HAVE to make Jojo's Biscuits!   

So, to conclude this blog I would just like to summarize it by saying- Spend time with your children!  Do activities that will stimulate their minds and reduce stress while building memories.  If you're inside- something as simple as baking can make such a huge impact on their growth and your personal relationships.  Also, eat biscuits.... Don't look at the calories or nutritional facts while you do... just enjoy it!  

I picked up my copy of the Magnolia Table at Wal Mart.  I've also seen it at Target, here is a link you can order it from as well: Magnolia Table Cookbook.  For just the biscuit recipe click HERE. 

Thank you for taking time to read this blog, 

xoxo

-Misty

Memorial Day

As I woke up and scrolled through social media this morning I already saw a lot of posts about people almost challenging what people are doing.  So many memes talking about "You think it's just a three day weekend" or "Incase you think it's National BBQ Day."  I get it, a lot of people lose site of what Memorial Day is actually about- but do they?  I can only hope that EVERYONE is doing something to celebrate their freedom and ability to enjoy today, we wouldn't have the ability to do so if we hadn't had SO many people sacrifice their lives for us.   I would like to imagine all of those who have died fighting to give us the right to be with family, have bon fires, bbq's, make s'mores (or whatever you do to celebrate) would be happy knowing that because of their sacrifice we are able to do this.

The USA is so politically and otherwise divided, more than I have ever seen in my life. Or maybe it's just because at the age I am right now I'm paying more attention. However, I think we should all take today to not let more hostility and aggression take over and just enjoy being here, in America, appreciating all those who have worked to give us the life we can enjoy, and ENJOY it.

Something I plan on doing with my children today to help them remember what this holiday is about is to write a letter to a soldier.  I think this is a great way to reach out to those who are still living and fighting for us to be able to celebrate today and it's important to let people know that they are appreciated.  I've had many loved ones in the military and it is a very tough situation.  I can't even fully imagine, even with the stories I've heard and changes I've seen in them, I know I can't comprehend it because I haven't personally lived through that experience, I can only hope my prayers and listening ear did something to help them through it.

This is the organization I plan on writing letters through with the kids incase you want to do so as well: http://www.amillionthanks.org  There is also www.anysoldier.com

Here are some ideas for some simple snacks to have today at your gatherings as well as a drink I'm going to be doing from https://www.thetaylor-house.com  Simple, refreshing and won't kill your diet! I'm going to substitute club soda with sprite for the kids so it's a little sweeter for them.

 







Thank you to all of you who have served in our military.  If you're reading this, I'm glad you're here to read it.  Thank you to all the families who have shared their family members and loved ones who have gone to war and fought for how we live.  I'm sorry for your loss if you lost someone.  May their memory live on and their sacrifice always be remembered.

Love Always, 

xoxo 

-Misty

Hello! My Eclectic Life.

Hi there all!
My name is Misty Lockheart- I'm pretty new to blogging but thought I would start just to write about all of my little adventures.  I am a mother to two, I love to be involved in charity, reviewing products, trying new recipes, life hacks and tricks, reading, work, wellness, food and traveling!  I do modeling, acting, photography, make up, live on a farm and love playing in my garden as well as jetting off and exploring new places in the world with my family.   I hope to write about all my various adventures in a way that will inspire, encourage and maybe offer some entertainment!  

If you would like to see some of my modeling and acting work please feel free to visit my site: www.mistylockheart.com  Or find me on social media, I would love to connect with all of you!

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Thank you all so much! 

xoxo

-Misty